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"...In an expatriate family the accompanying partner may shoulder more stress than the employee. She (only about 15 per cent of international accompanying partners are male) is in the more exposed and vulnerable position. Although the employee too must negotiate much that is new, he has the advantage of being grounded in his profession and the
"...Many accompanying partners, depending on the country they are in, are unable to obtain remunerative employment. If you can know before you move that your country of destination restricts expatriate employment options, you can spare yourself the frustration of developing unrealistic pre-departure expectations. This will also give you the time to gather
"... to be college graduate.
- a PhD research scientist.
- a person returning to the workforce after a 20 year absence.
- an accompanying partner looking for a portable career.
- a woman who was sexually harassed at work seven years ago, resigned, and has not worked since.
- a recent retiree ..."
"...1995 his wife’s career took him first to Turkey and then to France, Huw Francis put down his briefcase and took over the role of househusband. During this time he has created a portable career for himself and a brand new identity. His story will resonate with and inspire accompanying partners, both male and female.
"...more women do become expatriate employees, as opposed to expatriate spouses, more men are becoming accompanying spouses – though a larger percentage of female expatriate employees, compared to male expatriate employees, is not married. As shown in the introduction to this book, as many as 17 per cent of accompanying partners are now male.
"...a job at a school in Ankara, Turkey, and a few months later we arrived in our new home. Having arrived in Hong Kong separately, this was our first move as a couple and it took us a while to settle into our new roles of ‘breadwinner’ and ‘househusband/male accompanying partner‘.
"... about the new breed? -
As the employee, leading expatriate women face different issues than when they are an accompanying spouse – and their accompanying partners face different issues from those that male expatriate employees have traditionally faced.
For many of these couples this ..."
"...just because he was not employed when they first met him. On one occasion a fellow expat carefully explained about an investment opportunity he was looking into and condescendingly explained about stock sales, IPOs and the investment bank that was handling the deal, and then asked if the male accompanying partner had heard of Goldman Sachs. When he replied, ‘Yeah, they used to be one of my clients and I worked on a number of IPOs myself,’ the other expat looked stunned and quickly ended the conversation. The male accompanying partner went on to develop a successful independent consulting business
"...Although the women’s support groups will often offer their support to male accompanying partners, both the men and the women can find it somewhat uncomfortable. Despite political correctness, men like to talk about different things than women during their coffee mornings – and women certainly don’t talk about everything in front of the men.
"... ‘men’s stuff’.
This subtle, though natural, divide can lead the accompanying man to feelings of isolation, and that loneliness is probably one of the biggest problems faced by male accompanying partners. It can lead the man to resent his partner and position in life.
As one Human ..."
"...As one Human Resources manager commented, ‘In most assignments, women will meet other wives who have followed their husbands, and have a built-in social circle. The male accompanying partner does not necessarily have anyone else in his position, so even if he were au fait with the idea (before departure), the reality (after arrival) may hit him in the face like a ton of bricks and he has no one to turn to (or against), but his wife.’
"... shift in role -
As with female accompanying partners, most men will have a career before the move, and the impact on their career of leaving the country is often a major determining factor in whether or not their partner accepts the international appointment in the first place.
For many ..."
"...In the Middle East it is uncommon for men to look after the children, and one male accompanying partner looking after his six week old son soon after his wife went back to work was continually asked by concerned local matriarchs where the baby’s mother was. One day, as he tried to explain that the mother was at work, his command of the local language let him down
"...couple consisting of a working woman and an accompanying male partner is likely to be different not only from the local community, but from the rest of the expatriate community too. This complete sense of difference can be an isolating experience and can become problematic, especially for the male accompanying partner who doesn’t even have his job to base their joint identity on. Problems are most likely to arise when the male accompanying partner feels undervalued by his partner and friends, or when he suffers from a loss of self-esteem and subsequent depression due to his change in situation.
"...setting themselves up in their new lifestyle than one who takes it on with little forethought. Approaching the experience with a positive attitude will go a long way towards smoothing the transition – but it will not necessarily make the transition easy. As with any international relocation, whether the accompanying partner is male or female, the mutual support of both partners is essential to protect and develop the relationship and the individual happiness of both those involved.
As a male accompanying partner life can be lonely – not only from a lack of men to socialise with, but because it takes time to adjust to a new role in life. It’s not just different from what has gone before, it’s often a public reversal of status within the relationship.
"...There can often be the feeling that people think the male accompanying partner is not fulfilling his role as breadwinner, ‘as a man should’. This feeling is likely to come from the man himself, since despite all the politically correct talk that men and women are equal, the reality is that men are still generally conditioned to think of themselves as the
"...Once a couple is abroad, the fact that the spouse is a male accompanying partner becomes an obvious and unavoidable fact. At parties, social gatherings and in daily life, the initial batch of questions asked of newly arrived expatriates always includes, ‘So... what do you do?’ The answer ‘nothing’ provokes various reactions, and almost always involves some element of surprise – though it can
"...For a male accompanying partner who previously defined much of his personal sense of worth through his job, this lack of status can be demoralising. Starting from a position where he feels himself in some way to be less than the working men around him, he can then find it hard to integrate himself
This is precisely why it can be very important for a male accompanying partner to have a portable career – especially if there is a likelihood that his partner will continue to move around the world as she progresses in her career, and he wants to go with her.
As Carrie ..."
"... seem to more closely align themselves by what they do, it becomes more imperative for them to have meaningful work.’
- The True Story Of A Male accompanying partner -
As mentioned earlier, in 1995, with the approach of the handover of Hong Kong to China, Seonaid and I decided it was ..."
"... and claustrophobic.
It was a joint decision to move to Ankara, and a joint decision that Seonaid would be the salaried employee while I would be a male accompanying partner (before we had even heard of the title), stay at home, look after the family and be a ‘writer’.
- The reality - ..."
"... Although I write mostly on the subject of expatriate living, I have found a niche that not many other writers on this subject can fill: I am a male accompanying partner. I don’t always write on this subject – but I can offer a different point of view on many aspects of international living.
"... also started on the next novel too.
I have in fact become a writer and consultant, and this won’t appeal to every male accompanying partner. But having a ‘job’ that I find mentally stimulating makes the ‘trailing’ bit of life much more enjoyable.
The other indispensable part of ..."
"...The other indispensable part of being a successful male accompanying partner, and having a real portable career, is having a supportive partner willing to listen to my gripes and support me in the work I choose to do. We are a team, and doing our best to support each other as we aim for our career and personal goals is
Carrie Shearer believes that men perceive themselves much more by what they do than by what they are. But I would add that most people find it easier to relate to a male accompanying partner if they can categorise that man as something other than ‘just a househusband’.
Back then ..."
"...don’t have the benefit of it when you’re just starting out. Looking back over the past six years there are many things I could have done differently – but they are just details within the big picture and I’m glad that I had the chance to be a male accompanying partner.
Overall, I was lucky. I’d never heard of the term male accompanying partner when I became one – and so Seonaid and I went into it without thinking of me as anything but an equal partner with my wife. We just had different roles within the family unit.
We were naïve ..."
"...The majority of non-employed spouses in the area where we lived were female (there has only been one other male accompanying partner living near us in six years) and to a certain extent that made daytime socialising difficult. To counteract that I found socialising at darts nights and playing football much more appealing than I might otherwise have done – but even that became less important as I became more secure
"... would have found the experience much more difficult to cope with.
Communication is a key aspect in helping both the male accompanying partner and the leading female feel comfortable and secure in their disparate roles.
- Options For The Male Accompanying Partner -
The options will ..."
"... helping both the male accompanying partner and the leading female feel comfortable and secure in their disparate roles.
- Options For The Male accompanying partner -
The options will be different for every man. Some will be able to take salaried employment – but the reality of that ..."
"...happens to be the language of international business, so the fact that you’re reading this book means you can also market your product to international companies. Identifying a product and a market for it is an important part of any business – and no less so for a male accompanying partner who wants to work for himself.
"... the enthusiasm to carry it out.
The options for that portable career are many and various and though not all will appeal to every male, having a career goal and going after it can make the experience of being a male accompanying partner much more enjoyable.
"...posted to Dubai. Telling me I would regret it for the rest of my life if I refused to join him, my new husband persuaded me to become what is sometimes rather unflatteringly called a ‘trailing spouse’. In this politically correct world the term has become the more anodyne ‘accompanying partner’. It is perhaps the men in our number who have created the most compelling term - that of STUDS which stands for Spouse Trailing Under Duress Successfully, while Apple Gidley, author of Expat Life – Slice by Slice, created the new acronym STARS at the 2011 Families in Global
"... assignment, only 12% were employed before and during the assignment.
WHAT CAN STOP YOU FROM WORKING?
The key reasons that accompanying partners do not work include:
• No work permit.
• Lack of fluency in the host language.
• Incompatibility of certification.
"...a loss of self-confidence and self-esteem. Enforced idleness can be hard to deal with. Without something ‘interesting’ or purposeful to focus on, it is easy to become stressed or depressed. This is where learning the skills to develop a portable career can create much more life satisfaction for the accompanying partner.
"...Dr Anne Copeland, director of The Interchange Institute in Brookline MA, has conducted a series of studies into the happiness of accompanying partners. Copeland has discovered that it’s not the women who maintain close contact with their friends and family back home who adjust best, nor is it those who have a strong family unit with them on assignment. It’s the women who make new friendships who adjust most easily to their
"...Dr Copeland’s research proved without doubt that local friendships are of vital importance on overseas assignment, particularly for the accompanying partner. Women are largely conditioned to accept that coffee mornings are an inevitable part of expat life. Although women who don’t have children comment that they feel uneasy in this environment, men feel even less comfortable. It can be difficult for a man to feel relaxed in such a
"...‘Many of the problems men encounter are not dissimilar to those experienced by women,’ says expatriate Australian Leonie Elphinstone, who conducted a survey into the male accompanying partner. ‘What makes the difference is that men are brought up to be the breadwinners and when things go wrong they find they have further to fall.’ While men need to make new friends on location as much as women, they appear to feel happiest when their involvement is not
"...consisting of a working woman and an accompanying male partner is likely to be different not only from the local community, but from the rest of the expatriate community too. This complete sense of difference can be an isolating experience and can become problematic, especially for the male accompanying partner who doesn’t even have his job to base their joint identity on. Problems are most likely to arise when the male accompanying partner feels undervalued by his partner and friends, or when he suffers from a loss of self-esteem and subsequent depression due to his change in situation.’