Search result for 'belonging' in The Global Nomad's Guide to University Transition
"...of their own, global nomads often know more about other places, peoples, cultures and languages than they do their own passport country. This can lead to cultural imbalance, identity issues, and being misunderstood by home-country peers which can then lead to the feeling of not fitting in or not belonging which I talk about in detail in Chapter 5.
"...In other words, they are not sure of who they are and exactly where they belong – a quandary that does not usually crop up until they repatriate, oftentimes for higher education. Until this time they haven’t had to examine the issue of belonging. Many TCKs feel they are more a part of the host culture in which they have been immersed than the culture or cultures their parents hail from.
"... are more a part of the host culture in which they have been immersed than the culture or cultures their parents hail from.
- belonging to the Third Culture Tribe -
- What is the Third Culture? -
People ask all the time, “What exactly is the ‘third culture’?” Social scientist ..."
"... of people who have done the same thing.
What she discovered is that the sense of belonging is found neither in the home culture nor in the host culture, but with others who share the experience of living outside their passport cultures.
- The Expanded Definition -
Dave Pollock, ..."
"...person who has spent a significant part of his or her developmental years outside the parents’ passport culture. The TCK builds relationships to all of the cultures, while not having full ownership in any. Although elements from each culture are assimilated into the TCK’s life experience, the sense of belonging is in relationship to others of similar background.
"...Basically what Useem, Pollock and Van Reken are all saying is a child is taken from the country of his or her parents or parent (the first culture) and raised in a host or multiple host countries (the second culture), but belonging is in that community of people who have shared a similar way of living. Finding commonality with others is what gives the sense of belonging regardless of their national, ethnic or cultural heritage. Together these students form a common, shared set of experiences.
"...Let’s start by going back to Pollock’s expanded TCK definition and look closely at the last phrase: “…the sense of belonging is in relationship to others of similar background.” Remember what Dr. Useem found in her research – that third culture kids preferred to hang out with kids who had had a similar experience? Libby Stephens from Interaction International and a colleague of the late Dave Pollock says, “You
"...One of the major developmental tasks that help us form our sense of identity and belonging is to successfully learn the basic cultural rules of our society while we are children, to internalize those principles and practices as we move through adolescence, and then use them as the basis for how we live and act as adults.
"...mobility took place, these communities were highly mono-cultural. Because of that, people had a strong sense of who they were, how they related to those around them, how they differed from people in other communities, and what the social rules, values, and traditions were. They enjoyed a sense of belonging and a definite sense of who they were.
"...foot in several of these categories. Look again at U.S. President Obama. He is the child of bi-cultural parents, lived as a TCK in Indonesia, and had a parent of a racial minority. It is no surprise that, regardless of the sub-group, CCKs struggle with issues of identity and belonging.
"...You are a human being who has the need for relationships and a sense of belonging like everyone else has. If you move, you lose those relationships or they change and you don’t know where you fit anymore. Your lifestyle has had a lot of that and if you learn to navigate it well, you can help others who are going through it too, albeit
"...Figure 2.1 is fairly autocratic in that it implies you have moved from one place of belonging to another place of belonging or gone from one “home” to another “home.” Any TCK can tell you that is not always necessarily the reality of relocations. Some would argue that TCKs are forever in transition, never truly able to commit to one particular place before they have to
This is the state of normalcy as you know it. It may be where you are right now. You are settled, involved in your community, school, etc. This stage is characterized by a sense of belonging and participation. It’s really the last place you can call “home.”
- Stage 2 – ..."
"... connect with others.
- Stage 5 – Re-involvement -
Re-involvement is a position of feeling settled again. You feel a sense of belonging and participation in your new surroundings. You can now call this new place “home.”
If you were to draw out the emotional responses you can ..."
"...so well-rehearsed that you get to the point where you no longer need to keep them on a conscious level in order to repeat them. There are likely to be times you will find yourself inadvertently slipping back into a routine that worked well in your last place of belonging but is totally out of context in this new place. You may sometimes even find yourself speaking in the language (or accent) of your last host country. Perhaps you just cannot remember the word you are searching for in your home language and another language pops out instead. Confusion
"... feel different from others who have not lived abroad as children, and especially from those who have had no international experience.
- Not belonging -
In all the discussions, interviews and forums when I have asked TCKs what issues they struggled with at college or university, the issue ..."
"...In all the discussions, interviews and forums when I have asked TCKs what issues they struggled with at college or university, the issue of not fitting in/not belonging is what immediately surfaces. Global nomads feel different from their peers and therefore, aren’t quite sure where they fit or belong. They know they aren’t really American, British, German, or whatever their home country is, but they can’t really call themselves a foreign national even though they may feel
"...I wasn’t as acutely aware then as I am now of what her dilemma was. Katrina really didn’t know who she was because she didn’t have a sense of belonging anywhere. She wasn’t Asian, African, European or American, although elements of each of those places certainly helped form her sense of self. She, like all TCKs, is layered with all the cultures she has meaningfully interacted with and the experiences she has shared. She did not share a commonality
"... group in her new school. The sense of belonging she had through her relationships was an ocean away and had no relevance here.
- Identity in belonging -
As humans, we all have basic, specific needs. These needs are many but Pollock and Van Reken put emphasis on two related human needs ..."
"... emphasis on two related human needs that, if met, help us form our personal identity:
(1) the need for strong relationships
(2) the need for a sense of belonging
Therefore, our identity is not in our passport; rather it is found in belonging. The question of belonging doesn’t normally ..."
"...Therefore, our identity is not in our passport; rather it is found in belonging. The question of belonging doesn’t normally rate a place on a TCK’s radar screen as long as they are enjoying it, but as soon as meaningful relationships are left an ocean or a continent away, those shared emotional experiences that gave them a sense of identity are gone. Issues
"...years at this point in time) and we knew all about the place she called “home” and it was neither the U.S. nor India. Here were people who understood her stories or were even part of them, appreciated and affirmed her and who tied her to a place of belonging once again.
"...Too often, TCKs do not have the time they need to develop lasting relationships that affirm them or stay rooted long enough to develop a sense of belonging. This is why they feel they belong everywhere and nowhere. Pieces of each place they have lived make up who they are, but the picture isn’t finished. They are constantly searching for the place they can truly call home. This sometimes leads to a pattern of what Dave Pollock
"...Pollock and Van Reken tell us this sense of belonging everywhere and nowhere is at the heart of the issue of restlessness. In the search for a place of belonging TCKs will often develop a migratory instinct that interferes with moving forward in their lives. I see it in the students I work with. Some will transfer from one
"... her mouth.
- Between Worlds -
We talked about belonging as one of the basic human needs we all must have fulfilled in order to continue moving ahead in life. TCKs are desperate to fit in and devastated when they don’t and can’t figure out why.
Some of the areas in which TCKs feel ..."
"...they were “too French” for her. She didn’t own the nationality and felt it was not the right fit for her. But she also didn’t fit in with the Indian students or the Americans who were invited to I.O. to interact with the group. She was neither/nor – belonging everywhere but nowhere. She was experiencing what one global nomad on TICKid.com says is “being an international without being an international.”
"...almost any discussion with TCKs the subject of relationships comes up over and over again. It is a feature on chat room discussions at TCKid.com as well as in any casual or formal TCK get-togethers. Relationships are an important part of our lives. We thrive on the sense of belonging which results from connecting and interacting with others. Understanding some of the issues that surround TCK relationships will shed some light on why it is such a hot topic.
"... raclette cheese over boiled potatoes) with our family whenever they visit. Read newspapers and magazines from your host country.
- Finding belonging -
Do you remember the lesson you took away from Chapter 1 about where TCKs find their sense of belonging? The answer is: with others of ..."
"...Do you remember the lesson you took away from Chapter 1 about where TCKs find their sense of belonging? The answer is: with others of shared experience – the third culture experience. In other words, with people who have lived outside of their passport countries during childhood. TCKs need to be with other TCKs. How do you go about finding other TCKs?
"...are what have made her different from most others who surround her on her university campus. She says she knows she is quirky but she deals with it by using humor. She also has found other ATCKs and internationals she enjoys hanging out with. (More on how to find belonging in Chapter 6.)
"... describing various reacculturation issues:
▪General TCP Reacculturation Process Issues
▪TCP Marginalization Issues
▪TCP Support and belonging Issues
▪TCP Cultural Heritage Issues
▪TCP Re-entry Preparation Issues
Each section lists two to four categories of issues and ..."
"...did not receive materials which would have otherwise been very helpful to them. Such was the case with a young lady who had been living in Asia. When she got to her university she discovered that all the other international students had received instructions on how to send their belongings ahead of time and have them on campus for moving-in day. She had to go out and buy everything she was going to need all at once.
"...the terms “third culture kid” or “global nomad” either before repatriating or shortly after repatriating. We can teach our children from very young ages that there is a language for the experience they are living as expatriate children. In this knowledge they will begin to develop a sense of belonging, that belonging which comes from the shared experience with others who are living outside their passport countries.
"...that question with what is true to their hearts. For instance, a British child who grew up in Kenya might say that he is Kenyan and British or for those with multiple host country experiences, a term such as a British Global Nomad might be used to communicate this belonging everywhere and nowhere. Domestic peers may not understand the answer your child gives, but it is a starting place and perhaps one which will trigger interest in finding out more about this curious person.