This is a list of how often and where the term 'relationships' appears in the book The Global Nomad's Guide to University Transition.
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Chapter 1: The World of the Global Nomad
"...we make a big fuss over that? The answer is, we do. Adults go through major culture shock and they must go through a period of adjustment which is not always easy. The difference is that adults have already established their value system, sense of cultural identity and core relationships with family and friends in the home culture. An adult understands that he or she is an English person who happens to be living in Japan or a Kenyan living in Germany and so on. Third culture kids live in a world that changes culturally and physically during their ..."
"...A Third Culture Kid (TCK) is a person who has spent a significant part of his or her developmental years outside the parents’ passport culture. The TCK builds relationships to all of the cultures, while not having full ownership in any. Although elements from each culture are assimilated into the TCK’s life experience, the sense of belonging is in relationship to others of similar background. ..."
"...You are a human being who has the need for relationships and a sense of belonging like everyone else has. If you move, you lose those relationships or they change and you don’t know where you fit anymore. Your lifestyle has had a lot of that and if you learn to navigate it well, you can help others who are ..."
Chapter 2: The Transition Experience
"...to think back on the last place you truly felt was home – a place that felt secure, intimate and where you were affirmed as a person. Others knew and appreciated what a special person you are. They were aware of your special characteristics, gifts and talents. You had relationships with others that attached you emotionally to that place. You had roles, responsibilities, and a reputation. You belonged. That place might very well be where you are right now or perhaps it was another time and place. ..."
Chapter 3: Itchy Feet to Dragging Feet
"...The leaving stage is characterized by a loosening of emotional ties and distancing from family, friends and relationships. This behavior is quite unconscious and is a form of self-protection – from your own feelings. I watched as each of my three daughters went about this typical withdrawing in their own style. Janneke, my normally jovial, sweet, loving, eldest daughter became so irritable and downright annoying that I ..."
"...This is also a particularly rocky time for romantic relationships. The decision must be made as to whether to try to manage a long-distance romance or break it up. If you and your significant other decide to break up, then you must decide when to do so and how to do it amicably. (More on romance in Chapter 6.) ..."
"...Do not leave a place with undone issues or unfinished business. There are many ways to resolve issues and resentments and reconcile your relationships. Whether it is the good, old-fashioned method of coming up to someone face-to-face and asking for or giving forgiveness or sending a note, it will free you to move forward. Sometimes friends and others hurt, embarrass, harass, bully or manipulate you and don’t even realize what they have done. ..."
"...Now is the time to approach that person and discuss it. It is never too late to restore relationships. Tell that person what you perceived they may have done, how it made you feel and tell him or her that you forgive him or her. On the other hand, if someone has pulled away from you, approach him and ask for forgiveness. This is all very difficult. It ..."
"...each of the four logs together to form a RAFT (reconciliation, affirmation, farewells, and think destination) will ensure that you not only leave well, but that your transition journey will be a psychologically healthy one that will help you enter well on the other side. Allowing yourself to reconcile relationships, affirm those important to you, say farewell and process the grief that goes along with it will bring validation to your past, release you from it and let you move forward in healthy ways. ..."
Chapter 4: Fish Out of Water
"...the nicest places and make sure they have a good time. This family says it helps them see the positive things about where they are living. Students can try this by inviting friends to come visit them on their campus for a weekend. My daughters have kept up their relationships with their classmates from Switzerland who have come to college in the U.S. by visiting them on their campuses or vice versa. ..."
Chapter 5: Introduce Me - The Entering Stage
"...Once the heightened alertness of the survival mode settles down, you begin to find the time, energy and interest to really connect with people. Up to this point your relationships have been fairly superficial. You have been meeting so many people at once and been receptive to all of them, but you haven’t had the opportunities for developing deep relationships just yet. ..."
"...form her sense of self. She, like all TCKs, is layered with all the cultures she has meaningfully interacted with and the experiences she has shared. She did not share a commonality with any particular group in her new school. The sense of belonging she had through her relationships was an ocean away and had no relevance here. ..."53.
"... are many but Pollock and Van Reken put emphasis on two related human needs that, if met, help us form our personal identity: (1) the need for strong relationships (2) the need for a sense of belonging Therefore, our identity is not in our passport; rather it is found in belonging. The ..."
"...Therefore, our identity is not in our passport; rather it is found in belonging. The question of belonging doesn’t normally rate a place on a TCK’s radar screen as long as they are enjoying it, but as soon as meaningful relationships are left an ocean or a continent away, those shared emotional experiences that gave them a sense of identity are gone. Issues of identity and belonging typically surface upon transition or repatriation. The interruption of those relational and emotional needs cuts to the very core of who we are. ..."
"...Too often, TCKs do not have the time they need to develop lasting relationships that affirm them or stay rooted long enough to develop a sense of belonging. This is why they feel they belong everywhere and nowhere. Pieces of each place they have lived make up who they are, but the picture isn’t finished. They are constantly searching for the place they ..."113.
"... views than those of their peers. ▪ Understand that there are many ways of doing things – not just one right way. ▪ Are used to having diversity in their relationships. ▪ Relate differently (more on that in Chapter 6). ▪ Are worldly, mature, well-versed in places, peoples, ..."
"...understand that you will feel different from your peers but it is a good kind of different. You will appreciate there are positive ways to deal with the differences and come to embrace them. In Chapter 6 you will be given tools and strategies for making friends and building relationships and in Chapter 8 you will learn how TCKs develop their identity and come to grips with who they are as international beings. ..."252.
"... Having 20 new friends immediately isn’t what makes us happy. It’s finding two or three people we can share with and trust. - Changing relationships - Some of you will find your best buddy right away and keep him or her for life. Other friends will drift away in the Entering stage. ..."
Chapter 6: Relationships - Past, Present, and Future
"...In almost any discussion with TCKs the subject of relationships comes up over and over again. It is a feature on chat room discussions at TCKid.com as well as in any casual or formal TCK get-togethers. relationships are an important part of our lives. We thrive on the sense of belonging which results from connecting and interacting with others. ..."10.
"... together you will continue to have that unique relationship that belongs to the history you have shared in your host country. - Long Distance relationships - While there is no easy way to handle romantic relationships that you do not want to release, there are ways to move forward while ..."12.
"... Distance Relationships - While there is no easy way to handle romantic relationships that you do not want to release, there are ways to move forward while staying connected to your shared past. A Lebanese student at a U.S. university shares his personal story: Maintaining a long distance ..."
"...It may take time to build relationships with home-country peers. Try not to judge them as they could very well turn out be your best friends later on. This is what happened with Brent and Rita. Brent, now in his fourth year of college, explained to me that the very kids who he thought were trying ..."
Chapter 7: Insights and Tools
"...All the time we lived overseas my children would answer the “Where are you from?” question with, “I’m American.” Now that we were back “home” America didn’t really feel like home. Switzerland felt more like home, but she couldn’t say that she was Swiss. Because TCKs build relationships with all the cultures they live in, they don’t feel they have real ownership of any. They feel more like they belong everywhere and nowhere concurrently. ..."108.
"... Competencies Developing Competencies Reverse Culture Shock ▫ Experiences negative feelings toward home culture ▫ Longs for host culture experiences and relationships ▫ Disappointed in changes in home culture ▫ Begins to accept changes in home culture ▫ Finds some ..."
"...lonely. She suggests you must be willing to take action and work at developing healthy friendships rather than wait around and expect others to reach out to you. This is just what we talked about in Chapters 5 and 6 when we discussed how to meet people and build relationships. You must put yourself out there and take risks. This is tough because it is also the time when you are feeling vulnerable and wondering if you will be accepted. Don’t give in to the temptation to compare yourself to others. This can come easier to some people than ..."
Chapter 8: Practically Speaking5.
"... and re-read!) Know what you need to do to enter well. You understand how important it is to find a good mentor. Have strategies for finding friends and building relationships. Now let’s look at some of the practicalities of attending college or university. - Get Ready, Set…Go! - ..."
"...A few words on the college dating scenes are in order. As with many other things, dating appears very much to be cultural. One European-raised, American TCK likes to compare dating styles around the globe. She feels that in Europe young men and women are not afraid of relationships. There is an appreciation for romance. She says even if the dating couple realizes there are no sparks between them, the young man remains attentive and polite to his date but does not expect to have sex with her. Whereas, she says, “Hooking up is popular in the U.S.” ..."
"...TCKs also tend to give TMI (too much information) at first in their attempts to find a connection with someone. Don’t bare your soul to everyone you meet. You may find yourself sharing a lot of personal things with a boyfriend or girlfriend because you feel the connection. But relationships can be fleeting, especially those formed in the first term of school. I advise students against getting into a serious relationship the entire first year of school for several reasons: ..."
"...health organization uses the following description to start the definition. “Sexual health is a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity. Sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. For sexual health to be attained and maintained, the sexual rights of all persons must be respected, protected, and fulfilled.” ..."
Chapter 9: Health and Welfare
"...in touch with friends and family around the globe, it can also be an incredible time ravager. With internet social networking sites such as Facebook, MySpace, Twitter and others that seem to be popping up nearly everyday, students can find that they are spending more time on their cyber relationships than with the real thing. Or they may be spending more time on the computer playing games or watching movies than on their studying. ..."
"...this in very different ways. The resulting behaviors can be a source of great joy or tremendous irritation. Not understanding the root causes of their reactions can lead people to judgments about the worth, intelligence or credibility of the other. As a result, much potential for positive and productive relationships is never realized. At best, people have lost the chance to make their information gathering and decision-making processes stronger. At worst, they come to foolish conclusions or make bad decisions. In either case, what is lost is a chance to see group genius at work and enjoy the experience ..."
"...INFP), the more difficult it is for them to work productively together, unless they understand the sources of the differences. The beauty of the MBTI typology is that, rather than pigeonholing people, as some critics have claimed, an understanding of these differences can bring about the best possible collaborative relationships between people. After all, with all sides of the four dimensions present, two opposites have literally the best of both worlds available to them when it comes to taking in and processing information. ..."
"...have played in it. It’s too uncomfortable so he or she just shrugged it off and went on with life. This is the time when we, as parents, may need to step in and help our children face the hurts and disappointments, ask for or grant forgiveness and reconcile relationships. Start by asking them if there is anyone they have unfinished business with. Questions to ask include: ..."
"...Unresolved past hurts go with young people in their suitcases, baggage that will stay with them and may hinder them in making new relationships. When they come back home on holidays, they may have to face the same people again and feel the same hurt. If your family or the family of the other injured party ends up moving away, it isn’t a solution since that baggage goes along. So help your child ..."
Chapter 12: Final Reflections By Barbara F. Schaetti, Ph.D
"...nowhere on our horizon, and even the idea of culture shock wasn’t much discussed in the expatriate world. No one at SAS or Trinity understood that my peers and I, graduating from international schools all over the world, needed guidance on university-bound repatriation: on issues of identity, grief and relationships, on leaving well and arriving well, on ‘home’ country practicalities, etc. ..."