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"...to peer pressure and bowing to experimentation with drugs or alcohol are common reactions to feelings of loneliness and wanting to fit in. Out of control parties are prime examples of outlets for students trying to escape reality or hide their insecurities. See Chapter 9 for more on “drugs, sex, rock n’ roll.”
Have an accountability partner with whom you can talk over problems and temptations. It is best to have someone of the same sex to serve in this role as accountability partners tend to become close friends which could be very threatening to your original boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.
"...A word of caution must be inserted in this subject of finding friends. Because TCKs appear more worldly, mature for their years, refined, cultured and intelligent, they sometimes find that members of the opposite sex (or same sex) are attracted to them in a romantic way. You are special and it shows. People are attracted to the way you handle yourself, the way you know how to listen well and how you genuinely want to get to know someone by asking appropriate questions. This
"...On the subject of dormitory life, begin thinking seriously about the various living styles offered on your campus. Is a same-sex dorm or floor the only way for you to go? Maybe it is, at least for the first year, if you think you would be uncomfortable with the co-ed living that is very common and popular on most campuses today. Now is the time to begin thinking about how
"...Set limits with your roommate right from the start on things like borrowing clothes, shoes or accessories without asking or when to allow visitors. Determining sensitive issues such as whether or not you will allow someone of the opposite sex to stay overnight in your dorm room will reduce the chances of confrontations. Writing out the mutually set rules with your roommate will help both of you remember and stick to them.
"... to them.
Jennifer, our British/African TCK from Chapter 1 has some comments on her experience with setting boundaries:
- Drugs, sex, Rock ’n’ Roll! -
Authors Coburn and Treeger in Letting Go – A Parents’ Guide to Understanding the College Years quotes one college sophomore ..."
"...Years quotes one college sophomore “who spent her first few months at college in turmoil after experimenting with drugs and alcohol” as saying, “The only thing I wish is that my parents had prepared me better for what I might face in college. There was never a discussion about sex, drugs or even money management…”
"...topics with their children. Or commonly parents’ attempts to engage offspring in such conversations are met with rolling eyes, muffled remarks or literally waving their parents off as not having a clue about these things. Young adults forget their parents were once their age and while times have changed, sexual impulses, the ability to resist temptations and peer pressure have not. If anything, they have become more domineering in today’s world of easy access to everything, explicit advertising and the instant gratification mentality of the Y generation. The fact of the matter is students are just as uncomfortable talking
"...of Adolescent Girls, brings home Shakespeare’s words, “to thine own self be true.” This is a must-read for any young woman heading off to university. It is a powerful reminder not to try to fit into the social scene by giving in to social pressure to drink or have sex.
"...Regardless of which article you read or website you browse, statistics for rape among college students is high. As many as 1 in 4 women report that they have been targets of rape or attempted rape. Statistics also point to the fact that the majority of rapes or sexual assaults are perpetrated by someone the victim knows. Before going any further with this, it is important to say that rape, the use of violence or the threat of it to force another person into having sex, is more about having power and control over another person than it
"... danced too seductively, they are still not asking to be raped.
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There are commonsense precautions women can take to reduce their risk of becoming a victim of sexual assault:
▪ Always be alert to your surroundings and never walk alone at night or in the early ..."
"...Another important sexual assault statistic points to the fact that in the majority of rape cases one or both of the persons involved had been using alcohol or other drugs and roughly half of all rapes occur on dates. Alcohol impairs judgment – watch how many drinks you have. If you are
"...There are undetectable drugs sexual predators use to incapacitate their victims and induce amnesia. The drugs are tasteless, odorless, colorless, quick acting and easily dissolvable in food and beverages. Date rape drugs include Rohypnol (common street names are ruffies, roofies, rophy, roachies, forget it, or forget-me pill), Gamma Hydroxy Butyrate (GHB) and Ketamine Hydrochloride.
"...Whether drugs are used in date rape or not, many women do not report it because they feel they are partly to blame. A woman is never to blame for unwanted sexual advances. No one has the right to touch another’s body without expressed permission. Many perpetrators of date rape, especially if they get away with it, will do it again to someone else. By reporting this crime you may be able to stop this heinous activity and save other women
"...feels that in Europe young men and women are not afraid of relationships. There is an appreciation for romance. She says even if the dating couple realizes there are no sparks between them, the young man remains attentive and polite to his date but does not expect to have sex with her. Whereas, she says, “Hooking up is popular in the U.S.” (‘Hooking up’ can mean anything from simply meeting for a soda pop to making out to having sex, so you must clarify with the speaker what is meant.) She knows of one young lady who has had
"...With this in mind, guard your hearts. There are a lot of young people out there who just want to sow their wild oats and don’t care about your emotions. They are not going to fall in love with you because they have had sex with you. You will be fortunate if they even remember your name. In fact, dating in the States has been called ‘predatory.’ Upperclassmen are known for vulgarly referring to first-year students as “Freshmen meat.” Someone may ask you on a date, walk away excitedly after you have accepted and
"... to know them socially. If they are meant for you, they will understand and will wait until you are ready to date in your second year.
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Once you are dating, it is a good idea to review the idea of setting boundaries or limits again. Have you thought about where you stand when ..."
"...Once you are dating, it is a good idea to review the idea of setting boundaries or limits again. Have you thought about where you stand when it comes to sex? If you are planning to wait to have sex, it is best for you to be completely up front with your boyfriend or girlfriend so there are no undue pressures or expectations put upon you that you are not prepared to handle. If he or she ends up running
"...In on-going discussions about sexual health, one international health organization uses the following description to start the definition. “sexual health is a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity. sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to
"... sexual health to be attained and maintained, the sexual rights of all persons must be respected, protected, and fulfilled.”
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If you are planning on being sexually active, be certain that your partner is in agreement and not coerced into it (consensual) ..."
"...If you are planning on being sexually active, be certain that your partner is in agreement and not coerced into it (consensual) and take proper precautions to prevent sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) or unwanted pregnancy, i.e. use birth control and condoms. sexually transmitted diseases are diseases which are passed from person to person through intimate contact
- Prevention of STDs -
The best way to prevent STDs is to avoid sexual contact with others. According to eMedicineHealth.com if people decide to become sexually active, they can reduce the risk of developing an STD in these ways:
▪ Be in a monogamous relationship (both ..."
"... decide to become sexually active, they can reduce the risk of developing an STD in these ways:
▪ Be in a monogamous relationship (both sexual partners are each others' only sexual partner).
▪ Delay having sexual relations as long as possible. The younger people are when they become ..."
"... others' only sexual partner).
▪ Delay having sexual relations as long as possible. The younger people are when they become sexually active, the higher the lifetime risk for contracting an STD. The risk also increases with the number of sexual partners.
▪ Correctly and consistently ..."
"... disease prevention. Do not rely on it.
▪ Have regular checkups.
▪ Learn the symptoms of STDs.
▪ Avoid having sex during menstruation. (HIV is passed more easily at this time.)
▪ Avoid anal intercourse or use a condom.
▪ Avoid douching because it removes some of the natural ..."
"... a daily multi-vitamin?
Are you keeping up-to-date with regular dental and medical check ups?
Women (particularly if they are sexually active) need to think about having an annual pap smear.
Steer clear of others who are experiencing cold or flu-like symptoms.
- Eating Right - ..."
"...My husband’s father once said to him, “If you think you are mature enough to get someone pregnant, you are mature enough to pay for your own education.” Those were pretty clearly defined expectations to give a first-year college student as far as sexual behavior is concerned. Students today face many more temptations and social pressures than we experienced a generation ago. Fewer restrictions are in place to guide their behavior and repercussions for debauchery are seldom pursued to the extent they have been in the past. Despite the eye-rolling and “Yeah-what- do-you-know-about-it?”
"...research now to show that most of us, my generation and the generations that came before, muddled through our university transitions to create fulfilling lives. But it could have been so much easier for all of us – less suppressing of pain through drinking and recreational drugs, through casual sex and excessive studying, and much earlier and much easier leveraging of our global childhoods into fulfilling futures. And perhaps those who got lost in the cracks, whose attempts to suppress the pain ultimately dragged them down too far, would have found their right way forward with just a little